EMOTING ENDS UP YOUR PARTICIPATION
How long and for how many situations you could PRETEND that you BOTHER? Because it’s not taking you anywhere. Better, stop it!
If you can do something to better the situation, go for it.
if not – don’t overdo the sympathy part.
With overdoing, you would end your minute (possible) participation, even.
🔶Moreover, we are comfortable talking out stuff, which is:
🔸More ignorant in the long run.
🔸Less bothered to be put the effort in.
🔸Great to pretend our false concern.
How our CONCERN turns into OVERDONE SYMPATHY?
🔹By keeping on talking, instead of doing our bit.
🔹By looking for the root cause, only to look for, whom to blame.
🔹By arguing the problem rather than taking out the solution.
Let’s talk about the current crisis -COVID. When it’s been a year now, every single day we get to know that somewhere someone is dying.
It is threatening, sorrowful, heartfelt, unfortunate to experience.
🔶STILL, WHAT DO WE DO?
🔸We criticize and blame the health care system, and management.
🔸We think, how long it’s going to be the same?
🔸We research, where did it come from (based upon the false sources).
WHY? Obviously, to show our concern and affection.
BUT… Is this the way? Are we seriously concerned?
Our concern is under question, AS…
▪ What we do is far away from how we pretend.
▪ We are far more careless than we pretend, we are concerned about.
WE NEED TO KNOW:
The time we start pretending, we shift our concern from solution to the problem, which practically ends us from participating.
Sending ‘participation’ vibes😇
5 notions to keep in mind to get yourself started where you are.
I. REGARD ALL THOUGHTS AS A DREAM or JUST TOUCH THEN and LET THEM GO
To connect with the open, spacious quality of your mind, so that you can see that there’s no need to shut down and make such a big deal about
II. EVERY SITUATION IS A PASSING MEMORY
So much will happen in the same way over and over again. It’s all an excellent opportunity to connect with this sense of each situation being like a memory.
III. BE FULLY PRESENT and AWARE OF YOUR WANDERING
The instruction is that when you realize you’ve been thinking, you label it “thinking.” When your mind wanders off, you say to yourself, “Thinking.”
IV. DON’T BE JEALOUS that HOW DID THEY KNOW?
Always meditate on whatever provokes resentment. As it urges you to go beyond common sense. When we work with this, ordinary life becomes the path of awakening.
V. BE GRATEFUL TO EVERYONE
If we were to make a list of people we don’t like, we would find out a lot about that aspect of ourselves that we can’t face. If we were to come up with one word about each of the trouble- makers in our lives, we would find ourselves with a list of descriptions of our own rejected qualities, which we project onto the outside world.
Sending ‘let’s begin’ vibes 😇
LET IT COME, LET IT GO!
Your losses and achievements may not define you but your behavior towards it, definitely.
That part of the day, when everything seems dull, not so productive, lack of involvement and reward, even. It is understood that why we don’t need to take this part of the day personally.
When it comes to the hunky-dory part, where we learn, achieve, overcome our fear, showcase our capabilities – why shouldn’t we take it personally?
Most of our highs and the lows of the day are from our response to the situations, happening to us, the whole day long.
By responding the way, any situation is asking us to react, is not the right way of living?
As by the time we let ourselves:
🔹take something extreme seriously
🔹react as the situation turns out
🔹absorb the highs and lows of our work.
WE LOSE CONTROL OVER OURSELVES.
It’s not like:
‘We should not try to control everything going to happen to us. RATHER…we should not let anything control us.’
And, there is a DIFFERENCE.
🔶We should not let anything control us,
the control begins defining us, accordingly:
🔸If we succeed we feel successful, proud, and knowledgeable.
🔸If we lose, we feel incapable, non-deserving, and less worthy.
Attachments (here, situations happening to us) lead to disappointments, today, tomorrow, or maybe somewhere shortly but it is inevitable, whether it’s with someone or something.
I’m a true believer of ‘Perception creates reality. And, when we:
🔹respond to the happenings,
🔹let the situation control us, and
🔹further define us.
What we are doing is…
We are basically, creating a PERCEPTION of ourselves based upon the attachment of our achievements or the losses from the day. Which is ultimately going to create our REALITY, which would be UNDOUBTEDLY FALSE.
Be very careful before taking something personally, because you need not.🌼
Sending ‘doesn’t matter’ vibes 😇
I remember! “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings” was my first read of lockdown, last year, and “And Still I Rise” is the first writing of Maya Angelou, which made me look for her other writings.
Both are my die-hard favorites. I can read them as many times, in various situations, for several reasons. Let me know, how words could be so powerful.
My best memory from the book “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings” is -how Maya was named initially “My” by her brother addressing her “Mya sister”, which later on eventually got elaborated into “Maya”.
One more thing that affected me was that the warm relationship between Maya and her brother, and the cold but ‘cherishing someone’s words’ kinda relation of Maya with her mother, gives you a very heartfelt kind of vibe.
Angelou herself commented on the poem “And Still I Rise” in an interview:
“You know, if you’re lonely you feel you’ve been done down, it’s nice to have ‘And Still I Rise.'”
The death of Martin Luther King Jr. propelled Angelou to throw herself into her writing.
Her breakthrough memoir, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, was published in 1969. This was followed by additional memoirs, books of poetry, and plays, including a dramatic musical production called And Still, I Rise.
MAYA’s INSPIRATION FOR THE POEM
Angelou wanted to write a poem about ‘defeat’ and ‘survival’.
“Still I Rise” begins with, “You may write me down in history / With your bitter, twisted lies, / You may tread me in the very dirt / But still, like dust, I’ll rise.” Throughout the poem, the types of harrowing and unjust treatment that Black people in America are addressed alongside declarations of “I rise.”
Either it is the poem “And Still I Rise”, or the book “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings”, and both gives you a mindful approach towards the situation, where despite everyone is again your very existence, makes it hard for you to survive, intends to break your courage, you have to remember:
THE BIRDS SINGING IN THE CAGE COULD STILL RISE.
Sending ‘rising’ vibes