#16 HE FOR SHE, CELEBRATING INTERNATION WOMEN’S DAY, 2021, with 21 matter series

HE FOR SHE CAMPAIGN

He For She is a social movement campaign providing a systematic approach and targeted platform through which men and boys become agents of change for the achievement of gender equality.

UN WOMEN AND THE CAMPAIGN

Achieving gender equality requires an inclusive approach that both recognizes men and boys as partners for women’s rights, and acknowledges how they stand to benefit from greater equality.

UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon and UN Women Global Goodwill Ambassador Emma Watson introduced the campaign to the world in 2014.

“HE FOR SHE”- CLARITY TO FEMINISM

I have already discussed feminism and gender biases, in this ongoing series but still, I am receiving so many queries related to how feminism could resolve gender biasness, what role a male could play, the crux was:

“How male community could be a part of the gender equality drive?”

Emma Watson’s messages from her UN Women speech on- “HE FOR SHE”

✨”I decided I was a feminist and this seemed uncomplicated to me”
(means, determination paves a smooth path towards accomplishment)

✨“Gender equality is your issue too”
(means, a man is also a sufferer of gender biasness and thus he should be a part of the movement)

DILEMMA FOR GENDER BIASES

⚡The male community says society (patriarchy) is the issue.
⚡Society says the male community is the issue.

ROLE OF HE

The first thought that stuck to everyone’s mind regarding the role of a man in a woman’s life is:

MYTH
✨Stand in cover to protect her.
✨Stand behind to have her back.

EXPECTED
✨Stand beside, hand in hand.

HOW TO BE HE FOR SHE

I. MAINTAIN GENUINE GIVE and TAKE

An imbalance in give and take could be really exhausting for the ‘he and she’ relationships to thrive.

Now, the question arises, how much is considered “genuine”?

⚡When no one is an authoritative power.
⚡When you feel grateful for other’s efforts.
⚡When you are satisfied to serve a helping hand.

Balanced participation leads to everyone’s prosperity, whosoever is involved in the situation.

II. BE HER EMOTIONAL BACKING

Despite emotions being the strongest trait in a woman, at times she gets tired and calls for an emotional backing.

He may show emotional support to her by offering:

✨Encouragement
✨Reassurance
✨Compassion

He enables lift her emotionally interfering social and emotional support.

III. BELIEVE IN HER SPIRIT

A woman is a full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform the world.

Women live feeling more in touch with their femininity, their self-worth, trusting their intuition, and more connected to embracing who they are.

His belief will be an experience of a flow of empowerment and liberty.

HE FOR SHE, BECAUSE HE and SHE ARE- ” MORE POWERFUL TOGETHER.”

#17 BORN EQUAL, CELEBRATING INTERNATION WOMEN’S DAY, 2021, with 21 matter series

GENDER PARITY

Gender parity is equality between all people, regardless of their:

✨GENDER (the patriarchal binary approach to gender )
✨SEXUALITY (the degree to which they conform with gender norms)

WHAT DOES THE STATISTICS say?

UNICEF data depicts:

⚡Nearly 1 in 4 girls between the ages of 15 and 19 are neither employed nor in education or training – compared to 1 in 10 boys.

⚡Some 1 in 20 girls between the ages of 15 and 19 – around 13 million – have experienced forced sex.

⚡Some 650 million girls and women around the world have been married as children.

⚡Over 200 million have undergone female genital mutilation.

UN TOWARDS GENDER EQUALITY

Gender Action Plan 2018-2021

The Gender Action Plan (GAP) 2018-2021 is UNICEF’s roadmap for promoting gender quality throughout its work, in alignment with the organization’s Strategic Plan (2018-2021) and support of its contributions to the Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs).

DISCRIMINATION, BLESSING IN DISGUISE

Discrimination made women:

✨Enthusiastic, in discovering their actual strength.
✨Courageous, enough to corner the oppressors.
✨Righteous, in justifying their existence.

WHAT’S BACKING DISCRIMINATION?

Despite the immense hardships, we are not achieving the desired outcomes.

I. WRONG PERCEPTION- ‘Anti-men movement’

Mostly, it’s been presumed that ‘women’s rights are gained at the expense of men’s-IT’S WRONG

A recent WHO report comparing 41 European countries found that men’s health was poorer in more gender-unequal societies.

In more gender-equal societies men are half as likely to be depressed, less likely to commit suicide, have around a 40% smaller risk of dying a violent death.

II. UNDUE EXPECTATIONS- ‘Legal backing is sufficient’

People often believe that our society doesn’t have problems with these issues, as long as women have legal rights.

The legal establishment of these rights is not enough until there is:

⚡Societal prejudice
⚡Invalid expectations
⚡Demoralizing attitude

“Nothing will work unless you do” – Maya Angelou

III. CONVENIENCE- ‘Patriarchy’

Gender equality is somehow a social, cultural aspect.

Gender is a function of power relations between men and women where men are considered superior to women.

Instead of encouraging children to fight social inequality, society teaches a woman to make choices for herself –

“Where your emotions won’t distract you from your so-called duties.”

SOMETHING FROM DEEP INSIDE ME

Despite of being born equal, the discrimination women face on daily basis, can never be expressed in words. I can only say- it makes you feel helpless.

A woman would know the ground of discrimination anyhow, even know the solution somehow, but still fail to work out the desired conclusion.

We keep on saying, physical appearance doesn’t matter, but in this issue, when only physical appearance is the actual difference, does it so matter to cost a free soul?

I have gathered some of my scattered experiences, what however hit me after listening to countless gender discrimination examples and tried to jot it down in a kind of poetry, (if it seems so…) for those who think, a woman less than a man.

TODAY I ACCEPT- I’M DIFFERENT

If you call me a duty,
Then stop gawking at my beauty.

If you call me an affliction,
Then stop craving my affection.

Despite me being to you a complication,
You run your generation on my creation.

I’m a blessing, but not the one for you.
I’m a woman
and
I AM DIFFERENT